Engagement Toasts: Advice & Etiquette

Engagement toasts celebrate a couple’s love and commitment and are an honored tradition at an engagement party. At formal parties, they’re often planned and scheduled. At informal and casual parties they’re often impromptu with guests getting up and speaking on their own, or being prompted by someone else.

So all the guests have arrived, the party is in full swing and everyone is waiting to raise a glass. Now what?

wine and champagne glasses raised for a toast

For formal parties, it’s generally agreed upon prior to the party who’ll be giving a toast and in what order. Requests are made and the “toasters” confirm their participation prior to the event.

If no advance notice is given or the party is more informal, don’t sweat it. Go with the flow and see how things work out.

Remember, if you’re prepared you’ll come across feeling confident and looking very comfortable. So, it’s always a good idea to think about what you would say IF there’s the slightest chance that you may be asked to toast the couple and you weren’t formally requested to do so prior to the event.

Engagement Party Toasts: Tips & Advice

It’s important to make eye contact with the audience and more importantly with the newly engaged couple especially when referring directly to them.

You can’t give a toast without holding a glass in your hand so if you don’t drink alcohol, just fill your glass up with something else.

Try and keep a toast about a minute or two long unless you have some really clever story to tell. Short and sweet always works best.

Engagement Party Toast Etiquette

In terms of toast etiquette… Drinking to a toast is always for someone else, in other words you don’t drink to yourself. When you’re being toasted you should simply sit, relax, and enjoy the moment. DO NOT raise your glass , clap or drink to yourself. You can however stand at the end of the toast, acknowledge and thank the person (and everyone), and then have a drink.

Traditionally, it’s the parents of the soon-to-be bride and groom who start the toasting. They use the opportunity to show their approval of the union and welcome their child’s fiancé(e) into their family. But anyone who wants to wish the couple well, can make a toast.

Toasts can also be made by the couple themselves who want to thank their guests, parents, or those that gave toasts and usually signifies the end of this part of the festivities.

Engagement Toast Ideas

Remember that it’s all about the couple and congratulating them, so think about them as both individuals and their relationship.

If you are looking for a straightforward approach, talk about how they first met, what they have in common, your impressions of them as a couple. You can also talk about how he proposed, the ring, the first time you saw them together.

Recount a funny story about either or both of them—even better if you were involved somehow.

You can also start with a quote from someone, and springboard the quote into the toast talking about how it applies to the couple. Check out our engagement quotes page to see if anything there inspires you.

Finally, try to finish your toast with how they found each other in the end, or how no two people were better matched.

Still stuck on ideas for engagement toasts?  Check out our  sample engagement party speeches which are basically more elaborate toast. They’re broken down by a parent of the bride and groom, the bride and groom themselves and a friend.

Finally be sure to read the four ‘Rs’ of delivering an engagement speech or toast because a good toast is all in the delivery.