The Engagement Party Speech

Giving an engagement party speech is both exciting and nerve wracking. Whether you’re the soon-to-be groom or bride-to-be, a friend, or a family member, you just might be called upon to give a speech so have fun with it and enjoy the experience.

Just remember that a great speech is one that is delivered well and written well, and that takes a little preparation and creativity.

Couple waking holding a pizza box

If you aren’t sure what to write or are completely stuck on what to say, take a look at our tips and the example below.

No. 1 Tip For Writing an Engagement Party Speech

You need to start somewhere. A germ of an idea can really get you rolling, so our number 1 tip to get started is to begin by creating lists.  Create a list of things about each person. The list can include anything because anything (with a little imagination) can be turned into a great speech.

Start with two columns. On one side list things unique to the groom, on the other side list things about the bride.

If you’re asked to give the speech by one without really knowing many details about the other, interview the one who asked you about their partner. You can also ask the couple’s friends or family, to get an idea of what they’re like.

How To Write An Engagement Party Speech

In our example we use Rob & Jennifer to show you how simple the lists can be.


He likes to fish.
He’s a slob.
He hates to be alone.
He loves pizza.

She loves animals.
She’s a homebody.
She loves pizza.
She changes her hairstyle weekly.

Even a simple list can give you a jumping off point for an engagement party speech. The couple has a shared love of pizza—take that one point and you’ll be surprised how your speech can build from that.

You can open your speech with something funny or humorous, a light hearted comment about marriage in general, or something specific to the couple—such as:

“…Rob always orders his pizza with “the works”…he had no idea that that night “the works” would include Jennifer…”

Add things that are unique about the couple to your list—what brought them together. Perhaps it was a love of flea market shopping, or old movies. Use the speech to paint a picture of their relationship.

Don’t get frustrated, relax and let the story flow. It will.  And remember you probably personally know most of your audience and even if you don’t, you can be sure they’ll all be friendly and receptive.

Use The Classics In Your Speech

Pull a famous quote from Shakespeare, or a classic love or engagement poem.

This is from Robert Frost and is really fitting for any engagement:

“Two such as you with such a master speed cannot be parted nor be swept away from one another once you are agreed that life is only life forevermore together wing to wing and oar to oar.”

Review our engagement quotes to see if you can find something that fits well with your speech. The guests will be impressed that you found the perfect quote.

Even classic movie lines work, like this one from When Harry Met Sally:

“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

Make Your Speech Tell A Story

An engagement party speech, like any story, has a beginning, middle and an end.

Your beginning:  Your famous quote or humorous anecdote

Your middle: A list of qualities you admire about the couple or relationship, what’s good and unique about their union. Most of this section will come from the lists you created.

Your end: A famous quote or another humorous anecdote and a call for everyone to raise their glasses and join you in a toast.

Rob And Jennifer’s Story & Speech

Now let’s get back to the example of Rob & Jennifer. An engagement party speech for them, based on the lists above might go something like this:

Once upon a time there was a guy, a girl and a pizza.

The guy, let’s call him Rob, hated eating pizza alone. Little did he know that across town sat a lovely girl, Jennifer—who had just finished braiding her hair while looking at a whole pizza pie thinking how nice it would be to find someone to share it with and help her eat it.

So Rob asked his friend, me, if I knew anyone who liked pizza. I thought and thought—who was I willing to inflict Rob’s slobbiness on? Hmmm, then it hit me—Jennifer!

She loves pizza, and she loves animals—Rob will be perfect! Not a surprise to me, they hit it off right away.

23 months, 42 hairstyles, and 60 pizza pies later they came to me and announced their engagement, I couldn’t have been happier.

I think it was Shakespeare who said: Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind; And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.

Looks like Shakespeare was right. Rob is a lucky man and it is with great pleasure that I ask you to raise your glasses and toast the happy couple.

Timing Your Engagement Party Speech

When writing your speech, what’s most important is to speak from the heart. No one expects you to be a professional public speaker.  Letting your audience know how you feel is the best way of expressing yourself and delivering a good speech.  Check out some of our sample engagement party speeches to see what we mean.

In terms of timing, don’t go on too long. A good engagement party speech is about a minute or two long—the guests will want to raise their glasses and move on. Unless it’s a more formal party in which case we would recommend your speech be around five to ten minutes long (if you can manage it).

Always ‘time practice’ your speech, and if you can, test it out on someone.

Unless you do this all the time or are really comfortable with public speaking, then you really need to review our party speech guidelines.  It’s important to be prepared and to write your speech down on note cards or paper and rehearse, rehearse, rehearse! You don’t want to forget your best lines!

Once at the event where you’ll deliver the speech, take a deep breath before you start speaking. This will help you relax, and help you keep focus.

Always remember that they wouldn’t have asked you to give an engagement party speech if they didn’t feel that you would do a good job.