You want your engagement toast or speech to be memorable, touching, wise , clever, funny and entertaining (have we missed anything? ) And if that wasn’t enough, you also want it to be personal. Ooh, the pressure!
No worries, we’re here to help.
If it’s an impromptu toast, there isn’t much that you can do to prepare besides checking out the guidelines below (just in case) before you hit the party.
And, for the rest of you who know that you’re going to give a speech or formal toast, read on…
Guidelines for Engagement Party Speeches
When writing your engagement party speech or toast, give yourself some time. Don’t wait until the last minute to write up what you’re going to say.
Short speeches can seem uncaring while long speeches can cause guests to fall asleep. For the average engagement party, a few minutes is generally a proper amount of time although more formal parties generally require a longer speech. Toasts on the other hand can be very short and sweet. Finally, if you’re a good speaker and have something clever or entertaining to say, there’s no reason not to turn your toast into a mini-speech.
By speaking to family and friends of the couple you’ll likely discover interesting information. Information about them, their relationship, their childhood, and family heritage. Take notes and refer to them when you sit down to write your speech. It makes a speech more interesting when you divulge something less-known about the couple. Learn about how to craft your own engagement party speech based on what you know about the couple.
Compose Your Speech
Organize your notes and thoughts and look for a couple of interesting quotes or engagement poems or verses to include. They add a nice touch by bringing in an outside source to a personal presentation.
Then think about the main points you’re trying to get across…
Is it simply an offering of engagement congratulations? Is it about how they are meant for one another? Is it about their love and companionship? Perhaps you want to focus on their team work and how they overcame major struggles together.
What ever the case may be, use the information you gathered to help you get your point across. Remember this is an engagement party speech and not a valedictorian address, make it personal!
Practice Out Loud
If you’re not comfortable with public speaking, the more you practice, the more comfortable you’ll be and the more natural your speech will sound. Practice in front of people that know the couple and also in front of those that don’t. Their reactions will help you ‘feel’ the text. Is it too serious, too emotional or too funny? Are parts a little boring?
Refine & Improve
Based on the comments from friends and your own gut feelings, you can improve your speech by paraphrasing and avoiding repetition of the same words. Edit, edit, edit… Cut out all the ‘extra’ stuff that doesn’t enhance the main points you’re trying to get across.
Delivering an Engagement Party Speech or Toast (The 4 Rs)
Ok, party time and you have the perfect speech in your pocket. You put lots of time and effort into writing it and you want to deliver it in the best possible way.
Simply remember the four Rs: Relax, Raise your voice, Rhythm, Rise above…
Relax: Take a few deep breathes and stay calm. This will really help with your nerves. Find a position that’s comfortable for you to be in while delivering the speech or toast. The first few seconds standing there are the toughest. Once you get some form of reaction from your audience you’ll immediately calm down so keep in mind that you only need to be really calm until then.
Raise your voice: You want to be heard. Use your judgment for loudness and if you’re at a very large gathering, they’ve hopefully provide you with a microphone. If not, make a joke about your screaming the speech.
Rhythm: Pace yourself. You don’t want to rush or be too slow. Don’t swallow your words. If you make people laugh, give them a few of seconds to settle down again. You don’t want them to miss a word!
Rise above: Stand up tall and be confident. Your confidence will attract your audience to listen to you.
We hope these tips on engagement party speeches and toasts help you to craft your own. Remember that your audience is receptive, they want you to give a great speech. So relax, prepare, and enjoy the moment!