"What kind of engagement ring should we get?" is one of the most common
questions we're asked by guys. The second is usually "figuring out her ring
No surprise then, that while being interviewed for a major US publication we
were asked these very same questions. They wanted to know some hard and fast
ways for guys to figure out what type of engagement ring to buy, especially when
they want the proposal to be a surprise.
Below is part of the interview:
Figuring Out What Kind Of Engagement Ring
What are some foolproof ways to figure out what kind of engagement ring
she wants, besides outright asking her?
Unless she's actually put a lot of thought into it and shown you the ring she
wants prior to the proposal, you can never be a hundred percent sure of what
kind of engagement ring to get and that you've made the perfect choice.
However, you can hedge your bets and significantly improve your odds of
picking the right one by:
doing some reconnaissance work
objectively thinking about your girl and her personal
There are basically three components to choosing an engagement ring—the
metal, the setting, and the stone/diamond.
Engagement Ring Styles: First Steps
Pay attention to the type of metal used in the jewelry she wears most often.
Is it gold? White gold? Mostly silver? If she tends to wear silver and white
gold mostly, then platinum or white gold are good bets for the ring.
What do her favorite jewelry pieces (or the ones that she wears most often)
look like? Are they more contemporary? Classic? Vintage looking? Are they big
and bold pieces or more understated? This can help you determine the setting as
well as which diamond shapes to consider.
Do some reconnaissance work by asking her friends and family about her
possible taste in rings or if she's ever mentioned a particular preference. Ask
them if she has ever commented on someone’s engagement ring and what exactly she
Consider her personal style and her lifestyle. How does she dress?
How is her place decorated? How would you describe her sense of style to someone
who didn’t know her? Would you classify her as bold, earthy, vintage, classic or
elegant? These are all clues for you in determining what kind of engagement ring
Finally, what kind of life does she lead? Is she active, sporty, always on the go? If
so, she’ll likely prefer a solidly set engagement ring (like a
setting) over one that is more delicate with sharp edges and high prongs that can easily
chip and snag on things.
Engagement Rings, Trickery & the Foolproof Method
One sure-fire way of figuring out what kind of engagement ring she would like
is through a little trickery. Tell her that you want to buy a new watch and take
her out shopping.
Once she’s in the jewelry store we guarantee that she’ll look
at other things besides watches and you’ll get a great sense of her taste in
jewelry within a few minutes of being in the store.
Engage her in conversation about what she's looking at and her likes and
dislikes. You can learn as much from watching and listening to her while she's
looking at pendants and bracelets as you can from studying her reactions to
If you still need more clues about her taste and she hasn’t headed over
towards the engagement rings, gently prompt her in that direction.
Want to completely take all the guess work out?
Speak to a salesperson at the jewelry store prior to going “watch
shopping" and tell them the situation and why you are there. Have them lead your
girl towards the engagement rings and prompt her for her likes and dislikes.
them to tease the two of you about getting engaged and have them make her try on
some rings. Not only will you learn what she likes but they'll also get her
exact ring size for you.
Figuring Out Her Ring Size
How do you figure out her engagement ring size?
There are many ways to figure out her ring size. The most accurate
was described above by taking a salesperson in a jewelry store into your
confidence; however we have some others that will also do the trick.
Ask her friends for help. Next time they’re on a girls night out, have her
friends bring up the rings they are all wearing in conversation. They can
discuss their likes and dislikes and try on each other’s rings for fun (this can
also help you figure out what kind of engagement ring she may want). It’s likely
that one of the rings will be a close, if not perfect fit so take that friend's
ring to your local jeweler to determine the size.
Give her one of your rings. She’ll presume you want her to wear it on a chain
around her neck but tell her you want it to be more of a promise ring and can
have it resized. Ask her if she knows her ring size, tell her you’ll look into
sizing it and then change the subject.
Go costume jewelry shopping with her. Tell her you want to buy her a gift and
have her try on some rings. Test a bunch out on different fingers keeping in
mind which one fits her ring finger best and ask for the size. Buy her a cheap
fun ring and walk out of the store knowing that you got what you came for.
If she has a ring that she already wears on her ring finger, grab it next
time she takes it off to do some messy work or shower. Then simply place the
ring on a piece of paper and run a pencil around the inside of the ring and take
the drawing to the jewelers. You can also push the ring into a soft bar of soap
so that it leaves an impression. Or use our
ring sizing chart to get her size.
If she’s a deep sleeper, cut a piece of string and wrap it around her ring
finger marking the point of intersection with a pen.
"What kind of engagement ring?" and "How do I figure out her ring size?" are
definitely what guys ask us about the most. Well, that and how to propose! It's
amazing how clueless guys can be sometimes about romance and love.