Some girls dream of the perfect wedding, the perfect honeymoon, even the
perfect cake. But one young woman we know, Dori, has always dreamed about the
perfect proposal and the
engagement ring that would go along with it.
Her fiancé just proposed, and we couldn't be happier! She wrote us
with the news and has kindly allowed us to share her letter with you.
We are so excited for Dori, and because we know her so well,
we realize that her proposal was text-book perfect for her.
We also know that many guys could a learn a thing or two from Dori's fiancé about proposing marriage.
You see, her man gets
it! He took the time to think about her and her wants and desires. He knows and
understands Dori and made sure that his proposal was perfectly suited to her... Isn't that all any girl wants—her perfect proposal?
Here's the letter (with our comments along the way...)
You know how you told me to stick to my guns and he would ask me to marry him? I
did—and he did! I know it took a little longer than you challenged me with,
but it happened, that's the most important thing, right? After the ring, of
She brings up a great point—the ring is important. No matter what your
budget is, make sure you are picking a ring that she (and you) will be excited to
look at everyday. If you need help choosing the ring, ask someone, her
mother, her sister, or her best friend. And get educated on
diamonds, it gives you a huge advantage when shopping.
You know how I am always kidding him about getting engaged? Maybe that was a
good thing because when he finally asked I was totally shocked.
Dropping hints is fine, with limits. Go by the rule, "Know your audience." If
you drop too many, it's nagging. But it's okay to ask for what you want in life—after all, this is not a one-sided decision.
I guess my week went well and I didn't even know it. I had dinner with some
friends on Tuesday without him (he said he was busy) and we made plans to go on a double date with
another couple last Friday.
They cancelled and I was disappointed, but my boyfriend asked me to come to his house for
cocktails at 6:30 and then we would go to dinner anyway. Totally normal date
night for us.
Even when he told me to "dress up because we're going someplace nice"
unusual. Just before we hung up he said he had a present for me. I laughed, and
said "I dont want it unless it's shiny." He was totally used to my comments
like that. Oh, we live across the street from each other, but I vowed never to
live together, without actual vows.
To be honest, I didn't dress up that much. I kind of threw my hair up, and
put on a dress. I got to his house and sat down while he finished getting ready.
He looked great, by the way!
After about twenty minutes, I remembered his phone call and said, "Hey,
where's my present?" He said he thought I'd never ask, and came back in the room
with a Barney's shopping bag. I was shocked—I thought he was giving me a
little trinket, a nothing, but a Barney's bag can mean a serious gift.
Just last week he had given me a beautiful "just because" Herve Leger dress
that I had tried on with him and he bought later.
He's really thoughtful and
loves nice things, so again, the dress gift was totally normal, I had no clue it
was part of a bigger plan.
The man has good taste, he found me, right?
I took the shopping bag from him and pulled out a Christian Louboutin shoe
box. I freaked out when I opened the box—I had been asking for those black
pumps for two years! I was so excited, I had to call my mother right away.
He reminded me that these shoes came with some extra heel taps in a bag, and
wanted me to look at them. Of course I knew; I had studied the shoes for
He handed me the bag and pleaded with me to at least look at the extra taps. I took the bag, I mean, after all he had bought the shoes! But I couldn't
get the bag untied, it had a knot in it. (He had literally tied the knot!).
saw me struggling and finally took it, loosened the knot, and as he pulled a box
out of the bag he dropped to one knee and asked me to marry him!
I was speechless, which is hard for me. I was so shocked already by the shoes,
then the ring, which was beyond gorgeous! I jumped up and down and we hugged and
kissed. He had chosen the perfect ring.
I have to admit that I have always been worried about the ring that my fiancé
would pick. This ring is so me—my tiny fingers need something delicate, but
my fiery personality needed something with a bang!! .
If he really knows you, he will pick an appropriate ring that you
both love. We also believe in open and honest communication in a relationship at
every turn, so if you don't like it, you need to be honest, and kind. All situations can be resolved.
He told me we had dinner reservations at Alinea, the finest restaurant in
Chicago (no wonder he wanted me to dress up!) but he had purposefully made the
reservation for 2 hours later because he knew I would want to call my family and
Another great and thoughtful touch. News travels fast today. If your
nature is to share your excitement with everyone, he loves you for that, too.
That he planned and delayed dinner so you could share your joy is another
testament to him knowing and respecting you.
I made my calls, thrilled, in shock, and making a lot of peoples days with my
news. Some of my friends probably thought it would never happen!
He told me that the Leger dress he had bought was for me to wear tonight. He
knew he was going to pop the question and that was all part of his plan. I ran
back to my apartment and changed my dress and put on the new Loubs.
All I could think about was how amazingly thoughtful he was to plan all of this—he was making my dream engagement happen right before my eyes, and surprising
me left and right. I was so thrilled!
It was the perfect proposal!
Turns out, when I went out to dinner
with friends on Tuesday, he drove out to my parent's house and asked them for my
hand in marriage.
Again, it's important to really know and think like your future spouse. If
your girlfriend is traditional, she most likely wants you to follow all the
steps. If her parent's live far way, a phone call works, too! Remember to
do what's important for her and not just what's important to you.
He thought of, and more importantly, did everything I would want. I am beyond
excited—to share our lives is all that I have wanted. Now, I don't have to
wonder when anymore, I just look at my finger. Like, 1000 times a day.
I love him and am so lucky to have found him. He makes more than my
engagement dreams come true.
What we love about this story is that there are so many
elements for her to remember, for years to come.
This wasn't just any old proposal, this was Dori's perfect proposal and for
it to succeed it needed to be given a lot of thought and a lot of planning.
He knew how much getting engaged meant to Dori
and cared about her happiness so he really thought things through to come up with a perfect proposal idea
tailored specifically for her.
Not everyone loves surprises, and not all surprises come off perfectly—but
when they do, just like a dress, or shoes, a ring, and a partner—it's a
Thanks Dori for sharing your perfect proposal with us. We wish you both all the best that life has to offer!