Nervous About The Engagement Ring

by Poor Boy
(shreveport, LA)

I could use some help. I have met the greatest girl, the one, as they say. We dated about two months and then moved in, and I haven't looked back, and I don't think she has. We just click.

I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but we are just starting off in our careers. I want to be a cartoonist, but work in a print shop. She is a really good artist, but is working at her mom's hair salon just because that's what makes the most sense.

We can't save any money - plus she knows where my money goes. The problem is that I don't have any money for a decent diamond. I want to make her proud, but don't most girls want a big rock?

I am literally not asking her because I don't have a ring, and that is killing me - why is it such a big deal? I don't want to be judged by the size of the ring I give my girl, and I don't think she'll be hung up on it.

I just want her to know that she means the world to me, and if it was up to me, she'd have the a diamond the size of my love for her. I don't want to wait until I'm 40 to buy her a decent ring. Any advice?




From: The Engagement Experts Team
Engagement Ring Cost Isn't Important

We often get asked this question here at Engagement Experts and we always give the same advice.

What's important is your love and commitment for each other and not the ring or diamond size. If you check out some of our pages you'll quickly learn that the tradition of engagement rings comes from ancient times. They believed that the circle represented the bond between two people. It was only in the late 1940's that the diamond became popular due to ad by DeBeers which coined the phrase "Diamonds are Forever".

The point is you can go with any ring, ONLY buy within your means, and don't feel pressured by the hype of a big rock.

Know what you can afford and go with it. If you can't afford a diamond ring, go with another stone (like Princess Diana), if that isn't within your budget, go with a simple gold ring, and if you can't manage that, get something out of a Cracker Jack box.

The point is that what matters is the thought, commitment, and sentiment that goes into your proposal and the love that you have for each other. The rest is just advertising...

Please let us know what you decide to do and how things went.

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It's So Not About The ring!
by: Janie

I got a great ring because my bf could afford the best. It was easy, he went to the best jeweler in town and bought the best and biggest ring he could find and put as much thought into it as taking out the garbage.

After he got the ring engraved (at the jeweler's suggestion) he went to pick it up, came over to my place, got down on one knee and asked me to marry him like he wanted to know if I'd like to go out for pizza.

I realized right then that he was not the man for me.

Big ring or small ring, this was our life together and if he didn't take the time to figure out what to buy me and just thought the biggest and most expensive diamond would do...He obviously doesn't really know me.

And if he didn't care or give a thought to putting something special together for the two of us on the day we were getting engaged that tells me a lot about how our future would be.

Your love, devotion, and caring will outshine any ring. Don't worry about the ring just show her your heart.

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