How Not To Propose
Why are we writing a page on how NOT to propose? Because getting engaged is
serous business and a little fun never hurts. Besides, sometimes you just need
to spell things out for peeps because common sense is not always that common.
Top 10 Ways NOT To Propose...
10. Through a friend...
9. On a Post-it!
8. In a language you don't speak...
7. With your mouth full...
6. On Facebook!
5. After she tells you she's pregnant...
4. While she's sleeping...
3. With the words:
" I won't find anyone better."
2. In a language she doesn't understand...
1. Without a ring...
Sure we're having a little fun here but you'd be surprised by some of the
stories we hear.
The most important take-away is that a marriage proposal is serious and needs
to be entered into with a lot of forethought and discussion.
It's important that
you both talk together about getting engaged and married.
Getting engaged under most circumstances shouldn't be a surprise for
either one of you... BUT the proposal should be!
Yes, times have changed. We live in a world of Facebook and Tweets where
voyeurism and exhibitionism are the norm. Don't let that influence your
judgement, they represent everything a marriage proposal isn't and are exactly
how NOT to propose. This is one of the most intimate events in your life and
should be kept that way.
Focus on all the traditional ingredients that make a wedding proposal
special. Chivalry, respect and romance are all part of the package and even
though you don't need to ask her parents for her hand in marriage, it's a nice
touch that both she and her parents will remember..
Meet with them and let them know your intentions (without asking for
permission). Even the most modern and liberated girl will love that you did it.
Get down on one knee, know exactly what you are going to say, rehearse your
lines, tell her why you love her and what she means to you, lay it on thick
without any inhibitions or pride and you'll both cherish the moment for the rest
of your lives.
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Top 10 Engagement Rings NOT To Propose With!
5. One that YOU used once before...
4. Any ring with the word "cyber" in it...
3. One that's made for her toes.
2. One where you say "Isn't it cute?"
1. One where you say "I thought that's what you meant by 2 carats."
An important part of understanding how NOT to propose centers around the
all-important ring. The engagement ring is a symbol of your union and knowing
your girl, her sense of style, and what's important to her is key here.
First things first, you need to figure out if she wants to pick out the ring
because if she does, a lot of the other things you need to think about are no
If she's the type who'd rather it be a surprise, make sure you do the
necessary reconnaissance work to figure out what kind of
wedding/engagement ring she would like.
Picking the right ring is an important part of the proposal and a lot of
thought and care should go into choosing that one piece of jewelry she'll be
wearing everyday for the rest of her life. You don't want her to write to us one
day, like this poor girl, saying
I really hate my engagement ring.
The best way for you to NOT make any mistakes and end up on a list of How
NOT to propose is to be creative but keep it simple, special, intimate, and
tailored to her and your relationship.
For fun, check out our fiancée quiz
to figure out what kind of girl she is and what kind of engagement ring to buy.