Why are we writing a page on how NOT to propose? Because getting engaged is serous business and a little fun never hurts. Besides, sometimes you just need to spell things out for peeps because common sense is not always that common.
10. Through a friend...
9. On a Post-it!
8. In a language you don't speak...
7. With your mouth full...
6. On Facebook!
5. After she tells you she's pregnant...
4. While she's sleeping...
3. With the words: " I won't find anyone better."
2. In a language she doesn't understand...
1. Without a ring...
Sure we're having a little fun here but you'd be surprised by some of the stories we hear.
The most important take-away is that a marriage proposal is serious and needs to be entered into with a lot of forethought and discussion. It's important that you both talk together about getting engaged and married.
Getting engaged under most circumstances shouldn't be a surprise for either one of you... BUT the proposal should be!
Yes, times have changed. We live in a world of Facebook and Tweets where voyeurism and exhibitionism are the norm. Don't let that influence your judgement, they represent everything a marriage proposal isn't and are exactly how NOT to propose. This is one of the most intimate events in your life and should be kept that way.
Focus on all the traditional ingredients that make a wedding proposal special. Chivalry, respect and romance are all part of the package and even though you don't need to ask her parents for her hand in marriage, it's a nice touch that both she and her parents will remember..
Meet with them and let them know your intentions (without asking for permission). Even the most modern and liberated girl will love that you did it.
Get down on one knee, know exactly what you are going to say, rehearse your lines, tell her why you love her and what she means to you, lay it on thick without any inhibitions or pride and you'll both cherish the moment for the rest of your lives.
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5. One that YOU used once before...
4. Any ring with the word "cyber" in it...
3. One that's made for her toes.
2. One where you say "Isn't it cute?"
1. One where you say "I thought that's what you meant by 2 carats."
An important part of understanding how NOT to propose centers around the all-important ring. The engagement ring is a symbol of your union and knowing your girl, her sense of style, and what's important to her is key here.
First things first, you need to figure out if she wants to pick out the ring because if she does, a lot of the other things you need to think about are no longer relevant.
If she's the type who'd rather it be a surprise, make sure you do the necessary reconnaissance work to figure out what kind of wedding/engagement ring she would like.
Picking the right ring is an important part of the proposal and a lot of thought and care should go into choosing that one piece of jewelry she'll be wearing everyday for the rest of her life. You don't want her to write to us one day, like this poor girl, saying I really hate my engagement ring.
The best way for you to NOT make any mistakes and end up on a list of How NOT to propose is to be creative but keep it simple, special, intimate, and tailored to her and your relationship.
For fun, check out our fiancée quiz to figure out what kind of girl she is and what kind of engagement ring to buy.