Whether you're at a formal engagement party or casual one, engagement toasts celebrate the couple and their love and commitment to each other.
So all the guests have arrived, the party is in full swing and everyone is waiting to raise a glass. Now what?
Generally it's agreed upon prior to a more formal party who'll be giving a toast and in what order.
If the party is more informal or if this hasn't been done, don't sweat it. Go with the flow and see how things work out.
Remember, if you're prepared you'll come across feeling confident and looking very comfortable. So, it's always a good idea to think about what you would say IF there is the slightest chance that you may be asked to toast the couple and you weren't formally requested to do so prior to the event.
When giving engagement toasts it's important to make eye contact with the audience and more importantly with the newly engaged couple especially when referring directly to them.
You can't give a toast without holding a glass in your hand so if you don't drink alcohol, just fill your glass up with something else.
Try and keep your toast about a minute or two long unless you have some
really clever story to tell. Short and sweet always works best.
Drinking a toast is always to someone else. When you're being toasted you should simply sit, relax, and enjoy the moment. DO NOT raise your glass, clap or drink to yourself. You can however stand at the end of the toast, acknowledge and thank the other person and then have a drink.
Traditionally, it is the parents of the soon-to-be bride and groom who start the toasting and use the opportunity to show their approval of the union and welcome their child's fiancé(e) into their family. But anyone who wants to wish the couple well can make a toast.
Toasts can also be made by the couple themselves who want to thank their guests, parents, or those that gave toasts and usually signifies the end of this part of the festivities.
Remember that it is all about the couple and congratulating them so think about them as individuals and their relationship.
If you are looking for a straightforward approach, you can talk about how they first met, what they have in common, your impressions of them as a couple, how he proposed, the ring, the first time you met them.
You can recount a funny story about either or both of themeven better if you were involved somehow. Then, try and end the story with how they found each other in the end, or how no two people were better matched.
You can also start with a quote from someone, and springboard the quote into the toast talking about how it applies to the couple. Check out our engagement quotes page to see if anything there inspires you.
If you're still stuck on ideas for engagement toasts check out our page on sample engagement party speeches which are basically a more elaborate toast. They are broken down by a parent of the bride and groom, the bride and groom themselves and a friend.
Finally be sure to read about the four Rs of delivering an engagement speech or toast because a good toast is all in the delivery.