Engagement Toasts: Advice and Etiquette
Whether you're at a formal engagement party or casual one, engagement toasts
celebrate the couple and their love and commitment to each other.
So all the guests have arrived, the party is in full swing and everyone is
waiting to raise a glass. Now what?
Generally it's agreed upon prior to a more formal party who'll be giving a
toast and in what order.
If the party is more informal or if this hasn't been done, don't sweat it.
Go with the flow and see how things work out.
Remember, if you're prepared you'll come across feeling confident and looking very comfortable.
So, it's always a good idea to think about what you would say IF there is the
slightest chance that you may be asked to toast the couple and you weren't
formally requested to do so prior to the event.
Engagement Party Toasts: Tips & Advice
When giving engagement toasts it's important to make eye contact with the
audience and more importantly with the newly engaged couple especially when
referring directly to them.
You can't give a toast without holding a glass in your hand so if you don't
drink alcohol, just fill your glass up with something else.
Try and keep your toast about a minute or two long unless you have some
really clever story to tell. Short and sweet always works best.
Drinking a toast is always to someone else. When you're being toasted you should
simply sit, relax, and enjoy the moment. DO NOT raise your glass, clap or drink
to yourself. You can however stand at the end of the toast, acknowledge and
thank the other person and then have a drink.
Traditionally, it is the parents of the soon-to-be bride and groom who
start the toasting and use the opportunity to show their approval of the union
and welcome their child's fiancé(e) into their family. But anyone who wants to
wish the couple well can make a toast.
Toasts can also be made by the couple themselves who want to thank their
guests, parents, or those that gave toasts and usually signifies the end of this
part of the festivities.
Engagement Toast Ideas
it is all about the couple and congratulating them so think about them as
individuals and their
If you are looking for a straightforward approach, you can talk about how they first met, what they have in common, your
impressions of them as a couple, how he proposed, the ring, the first time you
You can recount a funny story about either or both of themeven better if you
were involved somehow. Then, try and end the story with how they found each
other in the end, or how no two people were better matched.
You can also start with a quote from someone, and springboard the quote into the
toast talking about how it applies to the couple. Check out our
quotes page to see if anything there inspires you.
If you're still stuck on ideas for engagement toasts check out
our page on
sample engagement party speeches which are basically a more elaborate toast.
They are broken down by a parent of the bride and groom, the bride and groom
themselves and a friend.
Finally be sure to read about the four Rs of
delivering an engagement speech or toast because a good toast is all in the