Need engagement ring help? Well, you're not alone. It's pretty common for both men and women to struggle with the whole engagement ring "thing". They put so much pressure on themselves instead of just relaxing and enjoying the experience of choosing a ring.
After all, that is exactly what you're doing—choosing a ring. Nothing more and nothing less. A less-than-ideal choice won't change the course of history or determine how happy you are in your marriage, so just relax!
We are often asked for engagement ring help and inevitably the same types of questions are asked.
The most common are with help in choosing a ring. Well, we love engagement rings AND shopping but we can't choose a ring for you (although we would love to) because the final choice needs to be yours and reflect the two of you. That's why we've categorized the different types of rings available and show you some of our top picks and explain why we like them. But in the end, only you can decide which is right for you.
The biggest problem and underlying symptom of needing help in choosing a ring is social pressure. We somehow believe that engagement rings reflect everything about us as individuals and as a couple. That simply isn't true!
An engagement ring is only a symbol of our commitment and an expensive ring, a huge rock, platinum, yellow gold, pave, asscher, (and the list goes on...) says nothing about your commitment. It is only the RING that is important and not its size, shape, color, or price.
So choose a ring based on your commitment and NOT how it will be perceived by others or society.
The most important thing for any girl is that her fiancé made a real effort in trying to figure out what kind of engagement ring she would like. The fact that he took the time to think about it, learn about the options out there, and maybe even asked her friends and family for engagement ring help, speaks to his commitment and reflects the type of husband and father he will be.
Think about it, a guy with deep pockets can go to any engagement ring designer and have one of their sales reps recommend a ring. Is that what a girl really wants? Is that what you want your engagement ring to represent?
Another common topic for engagement ring help surrounds gemstones. Diamonds, like all gemstones, are graded and each has its own special characteristics. For most of us, this will be the first time we are making this type of purchase so educate yourself.
You don't need to go to gemology school but you do need to learn a little so that you can compare two stones, understand what the jeweler is saying, read a stone's certification etc. There are lots of pages on this site that will give you enough knowledge to be an educated consumer.
And for all the guys out there....We're pretty sure you didn't just go out and buy that new flat screen TV without doing a little research first so why wouldn't you do the same for her engagement ring? Remember the thing about 'effort' that's in the section above?
If we could have a drum roll play here, we would. The biggest thing on everyone's mind when thinking about engagement ring help is how much does an engagement ring cost and how much should I spend.
Let's start with the average cost of an engagement ring. The figures on this one go up and down all the time but according to a Bride Magazine's 2009 study the average cost of an engagement ring has increased 43 percent to $6,348 from 2006 where the average cost was $4,435. Since then, diamonds, other gemstones, and the precious metals have all gone up in price and so has the cost of engagement rings.
In terms of how much people are spending well, that's another story. The average on how much people are actually spending is going down due to the financial crisis that began in 2008 and the economic downturn of 2009 and beyond.
Individuals and couples are deciding to spend less on their engagement rings for both practical and financial reasons. Many are choosing to invest in a future home or even their retirement rather than start their life together in debt for a piece of jewelry. They subscribe to our belief that the commitment is the ring and not how much it costs or what it's made of.
And, as we've said before on the site, that old 3 month rule was created by companies who stand to profit from it so we don't even acknowledge it as something that's worth repeating. You should spend what is appropriate and feels right for you—one week's salary, 3 month's, or 2 years—spend what you can afford.
This site is full of information and help on buying an engagement ring, figuring out her ring size, understanding diamonds. Take a little time and check out some of our pages, you'll be surprised by how much you learn in just a few minutes.
If you're really stuck on something, need some engagement ring help, and want a bit of personalized advice, just ask the experts. We'll do our best to help you solve any problems you may be having.