The Engagement Party Speech

Giving an engagement party speech is an exciting time, after all it's a celebration.

Whether you're the soon-to-be groom or bride-to-be, a friend, or a family member, you just might be called upon to give a speech so have fun with it and enjoy the experience.

And, always remember that a great speech is one that is delivered well, and written well and all that it takes is a little preparation and creativity.

If you aren't sure what to write, or are completely stuck on what to say here's a great example of how to make a simple list of traits for each person and tailor your speech to the couple.

Engagement Party Speeches: Tips & Example

Make a list of things about each person. The list can include just about anything because anything (with a little imagination) can be turned into a great engagement party speech.

Start with two columns, and on one side list things unique to the groom, on the other side list things about the bride.

If you've been asked by one without really knowing many details about the other, interview the one who asked you or any of their friends or family so that you get an idea of what they're like.

Your list could be as simple as this one:

Rob
He likes to fish.
He's a slob.
He hates to be alone.
He loves pizza.
Jennifer
She loves animals.
She's a homebody.
She loves pizza.
She changes her hairstyle weekly.

Even a simple list can give you a jumping off point for your engagement party speech. The couple has a shared love of pizza—take that one point and you'll be surprised how your speech can build from that.

You can open your speech with something funny or humorous, a light hearted comment about marriage in general, or something specific to the couple—such as:

"...Rob always orders his pizza with "the works"...he had no idea that that night "the works" would include Jennifer..."

Be at ease, after all you probably know everyone there and even if you don't, you can be sure the audience is friendly and receptive.

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Use the classics: Pull a famous quote from Shakespeare, or a classic love or engagement poem.

Check out our engagement quotes page to see if you can find a line or two that fits your situation. The guests will be impressed that you found the perfect quote.

This is from Robert Frost and is really fitting for any engagement:

"Two such as you with such a master speed cannot be parted nor be swept away from one another once you are agreed that life is only life forevermore together wing to wing and oar to oar."

Even classic movie lines work, like this one from “When Harry Met Sally”:

"When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."

List some things that are unique about the couple—what brought them together. Perhaps it was a love of flea market shopping, or old movies. Use this speech to paint a picture of their relationship.

An engagement party speech, like any story, has a beginning, middle and an end.

Your beginning is your famous quote or humorous anecdote, your middle can be the list of qualities you admire about the couple and what is good about their union, and your end is a call to raise their glasses and join you in a toast.

Now let's get back to the example of Rob & Jennifer. An engagement party speech for them might go something like this:

Once upon a time there was a guy, a girl and a pizza. The guy, let’s call him Rob, hated eating pizza alone. Little did he know that across town sat a lovely girl, Jennifer—who had just finished braiding her hair while looking at a whole pizza pie thinking how nice it would be to find someone to share it with and help her eat it.

So Rob asked his friend, me, if I knew anyone who liked pizza. I thought and thought—who was I willing to inflict Rob’s slobbiness on? Hmmm, then it hit me—Jennifer!

She loves pizza, and she loves animals—Rob will be perfect! Not a surprise to me, they hit it off right away. 23 months, 42 hairstyles, and 60 pizza pies later they came to me and announced their engagement, I couldn’t have been happier.

I think it was Shakespeare who said: Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind; And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.

Rob is a smart man—and it is with great pleasure that I ask you to raise your glasses and toast this lucky, and happy couple.

When writing your speech, what's most important is to speak from the heart. No one expects you to become a professional public speaker, but you should be able to express yourself best by simply letting your audience know how you feel. Check out some of our sample engagement party speeches to see what we mean.

Don’t go on too long. A good engagement party speech is about a minute or two long—the guests will want to raise their glasses and move on. Unless it's a more formal party in which case we would recommend your speech be around five to ten minutes long (if you can manage it).

It’s a great idea to time practice your speech in front of a mirror, and if you can, test it out on someone.

Unless you do this all the time you need a party speech plan. It’s important to be prepared, and to write your speech down on note cards or paper and rehearse, rehearse, rehearse! You don’t want to forget your best lines!

Once at the event where you'll deliver the speech, take a deep breath before you start speaking. This will help relax you, and help you focus.

Speak from the heart and always remember that the couple wouldn’t have asked you to give an engagement party speech if they didn’t feel that you would do a good job and honor them.